You already know how we work. While we clean up the house, we start in the kitchen, as we are cleaning the counter, we notice Tommy left his baseball cap there. So we run it up to his room and put it on the dresser, close all the open drawers, make his bed, see his laundry is over flowing so we take it down to the laundry, start the load and notice no one cleaned up the mud on the floor from the weekend so we go back to the kitchen to get the broom and see the dishes left in the sink that we were going to wash before we found that baseball cap. We wash the dishes and finish the counter when the washer is done, we head back to the laundry room, put the stuff in the dryer then remember we were going to sweep the floor from the weekend mud. Head back to the kitchen to get the broom and notice the magazines in the family room we had been promising ourselves we would go thru before we decorate for Christmas. We start to do through them, find a recipe we might like to try, rip it out and bring it to the kitchen and start looking for the ingredients. Oh yeah,we need to make that shopping list, looking for the pen & paper to start the list, go to the computer to check which store has the most of what you want on sale, realize you have not cleaned your computer screen in weeks, head back to the laundry room to get the screen cleaner, walk by the mud for the third time and vow to yourself you will go get that broom RIGHT now, but the dryer goes off and you want to fold clothes before things get wrinkled...you get the picture. It's just how our brains work. One thing leads to another, in many a cross over pattern.
And no one knows better then our male significant others, while we hold his feet to the fire on a slight at the party last night, and bring up something that occurred over the summer while out on his friends boat. It makes perfect sense to us, cause as you see from the ball of yarn, it's all connected. Remember though, their brains are more like a chest of drawers, and to access what happened over the summer he has to head into the archives, and probably filed under "unpleasant stuff I do not want to recall". That file comes with automatic glue at the top.
Now, you & I know we are not crazy for making 6 month, 18 month, 32 year leaps in our complaints, cause it's all the same THEME...to us. To them , we are sooo confusing. We are as we are, going back to primitive brain, due to what the needs were for survival. While our he-man was out chasing down that zebra, we "stood barefooted in my own front yard with a baby on my hip" ( ala Gretchen Wilson), tend the fire so we would not freeze at night, watched the older children, tended the garden and kept and eye out for the not so friendly saber-toothed tiger looking to make our young his snack. We HAD to multi-task for survival of the species, just as they HAD to be singularly focused for the same goal. These hard wirings are tough to break. Studies have shown men who are stay at home dads start to develop multi-tasking connections.* Please remember my original disclaimer of gross generalizations, however truthful.
Our option, as I see it, is to appreciate what each does for the good of the species and work very hard to be understanding of what we are dealing with, you do not expect a bowling ball not to sink when you put it in water. and COMMUNICATE.
On a + note: I am very Thankful my oldest son spontaneously cleared off the tablecloth and PUT IT IN THE WASHING MACHINE WITHOUT BEING ASKED> yes I am yelling, if it weren't so cold, I'd be on a roof top.
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